I spend a lot of time thinking about dreams, both my own and other people’s. It goes along with being a writer. As a freelance journalist, I write about other people’s dreams all the time. As a novelist, I have a dream I’d like to come true. And as a ghostwriter for therapists, sometimes I literally write about dreams in the form of dream interpretation.
What I find endlessly fascinating is the difference between a dream and a delusion. There are people who go on reality shows like American Idol or The X Factor and truly think they’re the next Adele. But then what comes out of their mouth is a screeching warble.
Some of them seem genuinely surprised to hear they don’t have a great voice. They’re dumbfounded as to why they didn’t advance to the next round. Maybe they’re acting. I can’t imagine why anyone would want to go on national television just to embarrass themselves, but that’s me. It could also be maybe they’re not acting. I don’t know what to say about those people, especially when you have curveballs like Andre Ingram.
His dream seemed absolutely delusional but it wasn’t. At 32, he became a rookie for the LA Lakers (!!!).
Since he was 8 years old, Andre dreamed of playing for the NBA. He played in high school and then at American University, my alma mater. Once he graduated, he toiled for years in the NBA’s minor league. And I mean toiled – he made $13,000 for the entire season in the minor leagues, which is less than what NBA players make for a couple of games. He tutored kids in math while his wife also worked.
He says he thought about quitting several times, and some friends advised the same, or to find a better payday overseas. But he persisted.
“Every time I was ready to jump off that ledge something pulled me back,” he said. “Whether it was in training, when I’m hitting every shot I take, or in the weight room getting encouraged by the guys. My story is to let that voice, let that encouragement, pull you back in.”
Andre is the oldest American rookie in the NBA since 1964. His story begs the question, “At what point does a person give up on their dream?”
“When is it harmful to keep believing something will happen? At what point is it better to let it go?” As a freelance ghostwriter for therapists, and a novelist myself, I get it. There are many times when it feels easier to give up, throw in the towel. To say, “I won’t write this after all,” or “It’s unlikely I’ll ever be as popular as ____.”
Here’s why I love Andre’s story: I’m sure many people told him it was unlikely he’d ever play in the NBA. A 32-year-old with gray hairs competing against people 10 years his junior? What are the odds he could share the court with them? But it happened.
The key, I think, is the quote he shared about how something kept pulling him back. Every time he wanted to quit something kept him from doing it. That to me reeks of intuition, which my spiritual teacher says “establishes the link between the crude world and the subtle world. And as a result of a closer link being established between the subtle and spiritual worlds, and as a result of its closer acquaintance with the sweetness of the spiritual world, this intuition guides human beings along the path of spirituality.”
If something keeps coming up over and over again, it’s intuition, guiding a person on their behalf. We don’t know how that journey will unfold, and it likely won’t look the way we want it to, but I have to believe if some dreams don’t disappear, then they are meant to become reality.
Sometimes though (most times?) you need a little help. That could be in the form of training and education. It could also be in the form of hiring a ghostwriter to write your blogs or books. I view myself as the vehicle to bring your dream into the world, not the owner. You likely have so much wisdom to share with the world and I can be the one to help you share it. Do you want to do that?
If you’re ready to grow your business, connect with like-minded individuals, and manifest your dreams, contact me. I only have a few slots left for ghostwriting clients. Are you one of them?